We are often fed with misconceptions that self care is a spa day out, or a weekend getaway. I mean these are some great indulgences but they’re not totally self care.
We are often left chasing these perfect self care experiences and truth is, they don’t actually restore us at all. For me personally, booking a spa weekend is stressful. How many of us stress out trying to find the perfect place, going through the booking process, booking your massages (sometimes feeling worse from it) and then the travelling back home to actually rest from the weekend… things like that don’t restore me. If it works for you, then thats brilliant.
Well if those self care experiences are not self care, what exactly is self care? How on earth do you practice it?
Self care is intentionally and deliberatively taking care of your wellbeing through restorative activities. Self care shouldn’t be a temporary activity that you do once just to tick a box.
Self care is simple. It can be as simple as saying some kind words to the person in the mirror. You. Telling yourself you are beautiful just the way you are inside and out.
Here are my top three self care restorative practices in addition to being kind to myself and eating a lot of fruit and vegetables lately…
1. Practicing stillness and silence. 2. Adding in some movement with music 3. Time in nature
Please visit @ dollhauslondon on instagram to view some shared practices of self care from others.
I never really get time to take a walk anywhere. Since working from home became the norm, I found myself staying couped up in my home office all day. Whilst I got an occasional workout in and stayed active at home, I wasn’t able to get fresh air nor was I able to clear my mind.
So many things have happened over the past few months that seem to have completely occupied my headspace.
I went for a walk today because my mind hadn’t had any time to clear out its thoughts. All the thoughts that have accumulated over the past few weeks, any sad news, the media, not completing the things I wanted to, not reaching my goal…they just became tenants in my mind. They weren’t doing me any justice and everyday id wake up feeling even more “mind heavy” than the day before. This isn’t a way to be.
Today, I took out literally 30 to 45 mins of my day to go for a nice long walk. I put in my headphones, wrapped up warm, got my trainers on and walked. I walked anywhere I could and even passed by the pharmacy to pick up a few things.
As soon as I got home, I felt happy. I felt like everything is OK. How did that happen? How did a little part of my day going for a walk, listening to music and not thinking about anything I had to do this afternoon, suddenly alter my very existence? Its times like this where I cant stress self care enough. Self care is used in so many discussions but no one ever tells you how to self care. The truth is, only you know how to. Your mind, body and soul have all the answers for you. Just don’t forget to listen.
I’ve finally launched dollhaus London online! I’ve intentionally or unintentionally put this off for a long time. It was something that I created the concept of in 2012, but for some reason, it wasnt feeling very true to what I wanted to achieve.
As time went on, I learned a lot. Through the painful experiences, nights and days of over thinking, feeling low and not knowing why…talking to key loved ones in my life, I finally understood. It made sense. This is what I’ve been waiting to dedicate my time to.
Dollhaus was created for anyone who has used their pain to break free from their curated self to embrace their authenticity to empower others.
Join me on the journey as we connect to our tribe across the world; like minded women, powerful women, warriors of their story.
I’ve made mistakes in my life. I’ve let people take advantage of me, and I accepted way less than what I deserve. But I’ve learned from this…and even though there are some things I can never get back and people who will never apologise, I will know better next time and I wont settle for anything less than I deserve.
This is me. I am what I am because i have made myself so.
Peanut Butter (PB) and jam sandwiches are by far my favourite quick snack as it reminds me of my childhood.
I was one of the lucky kids to have peanut butter jars sitting in the kitchen cabinet. To be honest, I always thought it was just normal to open the cabinet and see a jar of PB sitting there next to the baked beans or honey jars or chocolates or… ok you get the point. …I didn’t even think twice about it.
I soon learnt that this was NOT the norm for everyone.
Food insecurity seems to be a major problem here in the UK as well as in our sister country of Canada. In Toronto for example, many people can’t afford to keep up with bills let alone purchase PB for the family, so they often have to rely on the great work of local food banks to help provide them with PB.
PB is a superfood and such a great source of protein and fibre and is a nutritious option for many diet choices, so I was extremely pleased to see Athletic Eatery hosting the Great Canadian PB Drive in Toronto!
Athletic Eatery is an athletic promotion company who focus on social outreach in the athletic community. They have partnered with a number of dynamic, socially conscious businesses in the GTA to help prevent hunger and food insecurity in their beautiful city of Toronto.
If you would like to find out more about the drive, feel free to email firstname.lastname@example.org and they will be more than happy to answer any questions you may have!