Healing is IMPORTANT because it allows us to regenerate and transition into the next part of our lives. It gets us ready.
But…to understand “healing” you must understand and acknowledge that healing is a PROCESS. Its not something you just choose to do one day or simply turn on a switch…
As emotional inner healing can’t be seen, its difficult to sometimes comprehend what exactly is going on. Having been through my own healing process, I like to relate Emotional Healing to that of Physical Healing…
Think about when you cut or have an injury, or wound… science tells us that a wound has 4 main stages of healing:
1- Hemostasis phase – this is when you’re bleeding, and the body’s emergency repair system kicks in… EMOTIONAL HEALING: this is like crying… being sad and feeling like you can’t stop the tears.
2- Inflammatory phase – this is where a certain type of white blood cells enter the wound to destroy bacteria and starts repairing the skin. Theres often reddening of the skin, heat and some pain/irritation. EMOTIONAL HEALING: when all the tears have dried up, and you just feel resentment and anger. Always frustrated and questioning of the fact why this happened to you.
3- Proliferative phase – here, the wound is naturally cleaned out and the focus for the skin is to fill and cover the wound. The skin starts to rebuild itself. EMOTIONAL HEALING: this can be compared to when you start to understand and gain clarity of the situation. You see the lessons behind the experience of the breakup. Acknolwegding what happened. Rebuilding the thought process.
4- Maturation Phase – where new tissue gains strength and flexibility. The skin remodel itself. EMOTIONAL HEALING: when you’ve “got over it”. Your thoughts, your responses have gone through a journey of remodelling and is now ready to transition into the next step in life. Here you find that you’ve learnt a lot about yourself.
What has the healing phases been like for you? Can you relate? ❤
International Mother Language Day recognises that languages and multilingualism can advance inclusion.
Multilingual and multicultural societies exist through their languages which transmit and preserve traditional knowledge and cultures in a sustainable way.
My mother language is Urdu. A beautiful sweet indo-persian language with a mix of words from Arabic, persian and Turkish, used a lot in poetry.
For International Mother Language Day, I’m sharing my favourite urdu word… “Qismet” which means fate or destiny. I use this word a lot and it acts as a reminder to me that everything that happens is meant to happen (and is the will of God) and also whatever happens will always have a reason behind it whether we know of it or don’t.
International Mother Language Day is observed every year to promote linguistic and cultural diversity and multilingualism. What is your mother language and what’s your favourite word?
(This post is inspired by @halcyonmaguk who posted some amazing stories today for IMLD )
“Grounding” techniques are just that. It’s a way to bring you back to your sense of normality when you’re mentally distracted by something else that may be causing you distress.
We all go through it, some more than others. Think about that time when you’re trying to focus on your daily to do list, but there’s just that thought or scene playing at the back of your mind constantly taking you away from your present moment. Maybe it’s that breakup that never gave you closure. Maybe it’s constantly worrying about your job, or something your friend told you. Whatever it is, these simple techniques and exercises use mental distractions to help redirect your thoughts away from those distressing feelings and back to the present moment.
I’ve added 3 grounding techniques I use myself so feel free to try them out.
If during or after practicing the grounding technique, you find your mind shifts back to the overthinking, that’s OK. You might even feel more relaxed and may think about it clearer and see things from a new perspective. If it continues to spiral, repeat the grounding technique. You can also make them last longer. For example, if I’m finding it harder to let go of certain thoughts, I might pick a harder colour and look for 10 things. There are no hard rules here, it’s about what helps you to feel better!
For best results, it is advised to practice grounding techniques every day, at times when there is no stress at all or on things that are only slightly distressing. This means when harder times come around, you are more likely to remember to use the new tools you have.
The one thing I will say for sure is that if you’re looking for ways to manage the overthinking, the worrying… it will require you to do something different.
Self hypnosis is a technique of putting yourself in a deep relaxed state in order for you to make positive suggestions to yourself.
During this pandemic, a lot of us haven’t had the privilege or opportunity to escape to the place you feel most relaxed. So having a technique you can do quietly at home, in a room, at your desk, or even in bed is a great way to “switch off” for a while.
“What is the difference between meditation and self hypnosis” i hear you ask…Well in both self hypnosis and meditation, you are taking yourself into a mild trance like state. The main difference however is that you would not necessarily use “positive suggestions” in meditation. (Although that may also be down to semantics to a certain extent because we know that sufis for thousands of years have used dhikr which is rememberance through words or phrases, so could also be used to reprogram the mind towards more positive thoughts).
There are many benefits to the body and mind with Self hypnosis. The most obvious benefits are the changes you might be able to make in your life due to the positive suggestions your subconscious mind is incorporating. Other benefits include improved sleep, more balanced hormones, and reduced stress.
Anyway, try and see if you can do this and let me know how it goes! Remember- for some people it may take a while but keep practicing.
We are often fed with misconceptions that self care is a spa day out, or a weekend getaway. I mean these are some great indulgences but they’re not totally self care.
We are often left chasing these perfect self care experiences and truth is, they don’t actually restore us at all. For me personally, booking a spa weekend is stressful. How many of us stress out trying to find the perfect place, going through the booking process, booking your massages (sometimes feeling worse from it) and then the travelling back home to actually rest from the weekend… things like that don’t restore me. If it works for you, then thats brilliant.
Well if those self care experiences are not self care, what exactly is self care? How on earth do you practice it?
Self care is intentionally and deliberatively taking care of your wellbeing through restorative activities. Self care shouldn’t be a temporary activity that you do once just to tick a box.
Self care is simple. It can be as simple as saying some kind words to the person in the mirror. You. Telling yourself you are beautiful just the way you are inside and out.
Here are my top three self care restorative practices in addition to being kind to myself and eating a lot of fruit and vegetables lately…
1. Practicing stillness and silence. 2. Adding in some movement with music 3. Time in nature
Please visit @ dollhauslondon on instagram to view some shared practices of self care from others.