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Mental rush hour?

Sometimes a lot goes on in a short space of time. Often your mind is left feeling like it’s after 5pm…rush hour. Whether it’s falling out with a friend or relative, a break up, work commitments, over thinking or a passing of someone close, you just can’t stop thinking about it. Whilst these things all come with their own process of feelings and stages, I try to remember that everything is temporary; emotions, thoughts, people and scenery. The only thing that isn’t temporary in this life is probably the memories. But what happens when those memories, good and bad, are the things that are keeping you awake at night in a 24 hour rush hour. How do you pump the brakes in a red zone for even 5 mins without getting a damn ticket? I mean how do you turn off the damn switch for a while?

Regardless of whether you believe in God, the universe, a supreme being, or follow a particular belief or faith, praying or meditating seems to make a huge impact in easing some of this burden. I’ve never been one for conventional meditation as I have never been able to just make myself switch off. But as I sat and prayed tonight, I realised that this too was a form of meditation. During prayer you are supposed to concentrate on God through recitation, rememberance of God, and supplication. These acts seem to open and strengthen a connection between yourself and God. That connection helped me concentrate well tonight and it allowed me to release everything my soul felt. It was literally like I was talking to God.

Meditation/Prayer not only has spiritual benefit but worldly benefit, and can be a means for healing and finding creative solutions to difficult problems. It’s definitely a means of intellectual development that awakens and liberates the mind to help it achieve higher levels of growth.

I don’t know if those of you who practice meditation/prayers agree that one thing it does do is help maintain a sense of internal peace, despite all of life’s distractions and challenges.

I definitely am not the only one who goes through mental rush hour, but if you have gone through something or are currently in need of mental peace of mind then try adopting meditation/prayer as a regular practice as I feel it can help one not only extend worship to a constant activity rather than a fleeting moment, but can help a person achieve power of mind and body as well as spiritual growth.

What works well for you during mental rush hour? I’d love to know! Share with me below.

@iamsairaxo

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My curly journey

So I think it’s about time I check in with my curly community about my natural hair journey. For those who don’t know, I finally made the decision to stop straightening my hair and embrace the crazy mop of hair God blessed me with!

As a little girl, I never really thought about my hair…I relied on my awesome mum to do my hair, who would always just braid my hair into two ponytails to make sure I looked tidy and presentable. As I got older going into my teens, I realised that all the other brown girls around me had soft straight hair which flowed with the wind, and was highly manageable, whilst mine just stayed in one place and always had to be tied up or braided. Straighteners had just become popular and I remember I purchased one of those old school babyliss ones. Gosh I was in love! This hot plate would make the frizziest of hair straight and manageable?! Whaaat…. I was hooked. Since then, straightening, and blowdrys became the norm for me. Any party, wedding, birthdays called for a fresh blow out! I could never be seen with natural hair…NEVER.

After having gone through a major incident in my life, I felt like I had finally woken up to reality. Lets just say that trying to be someone I was NOT, just to conform to others perception of beauty became very tiring. I was sick of hearing I had to dress like that or look like this…
Whilst picking up the shattered pieces of my heart, I started falling in love with myself. YES, I love myself; and through this I embraced my natural self, curly, curvy, strong, confident and beautiful.

I completely stopped straightening my hair in December 2017. It’s been a long journey but I can already see the difference in myself let alone my hair. Not only do I feel liberated, I feel beautiful! I’m sure my fellow curly girls know, the journey is a long one, but it’s so worth it in the end. I still have a way to go, but I’m happy to have found a journey worth taking.

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To all my curlies and natural brothers and sisters…. the wait is worth it. Yes you will have some days you want to just plug in that straightener. DONT DO IT. Lol… keep going and continue using natural products without parabens silicones and sulphates, and you will see just how amazing your hair feels and looks!

Some of you have asked me which brands of products I use and have found work for me. Here is a list of brands I regularly use:

  • As I Am
  • Shea Moisture
  • Cantu
  • Flora & Curl
  • Bouncecurl
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Nature is my medicine

Why do they call this ALTERNATIVE MEDICINE when nature and all its goodness was the ORIGINAL MEDICINE?! 🍁
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As you can tell it’s that time again where my body is telling me to pause, take a minute and listen to it because it’s finally run down! I’m in bed with a fever, body is aching, throat has had it, and eyes are hurting. My go to remedy is always my @doterra
Essential oils. I’ve posted about this before but any aromatherapist will tell you, this combination of lavender and tea tree oil is a very good “alternative” to conventional meds… and if you are someone like me who stays away from conventional meds and drugs (unless of course you have a Long term condition), then this natural combo could help you too.
Anyone else use essential oils for their health?

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Lessons…

It’s been difficult over the past 4 years to really articulate what I’ve been through. Easiest way has been through memes, quotes and pictures. It’s not always easy to write about something so personal in a public space. But today out of all days in the year I felt the need to write…

This time 4 years ago, I was too excited to sleep.
Wishing him a goodnight with love so deep.

This time 3 years ago, I hugged him tight, and told him “thank you for making me your wife”.

This time 2 years ago I couldn’t sleep; not from hope or excitement, but despair and disbelief.

This time 1 year ago, I forgot his face. Memories of us which I’ve now gladly erased.

This time, tonight, I sleep happy and care free; So dont look at me worried, feeling all sorry for me.

I have arisen from the flame with Love and Life; Don’t stop me now, unless you’re ready for my fight.
– Saira

In all of this time whilst I was healing, I learnt a few things:

1. The hardest thing about realising someone didn’t love you is thinking why they spent a lot of time pretending they did. Still baffles me at times but leads me on to my second point.

2. Some people will only “love you” as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends when the benefits stop. Simple as.

3. I feel we are stuck in a generation these days where loyalty is just a tattoo, love is just a quote, and lying is the new truth.

4. A clear rejection from someone is so much better than a fake promise! I’d take a rejection over fake promise any day.

5. I was left to feel that I wasn’t good enough. I quickly learnt that my problem was not, not being good enough, my problem was thinking i had to be.

6. Don’t feel sad over someone who gave up on you, feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would never have given up on them.

7. For those going through heartache right now, time actually does heal, and so does having faith in God.

8. To anyone feeling absolutely wrecked heartbroken and confused: Google ‘narcissistic personality disorder’. It’s not you.

9. Don’t look back. You’re not going that way.

10. Remember, they may have put you through hell but they cannot ever break you. They don’t have that kind of power. X